Well, we weren’t ON Sandra but we were guests on her podcast!  This episode was all about clown fetish.  Oh, you didn’t know about the clown thing Ken & I have?  Here’s a clown sex primer I wrote, Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist. After you’re done reading that, check out the Sex Nerd Sandra [...]

I love reading sex tips. There seems to be a chapter dedicated to great sex in every newsstand woman’s magazine. Sometimes however, I wonder if the authors have tried the suggestions they’ve written as most tend to lack originality and inspiration.

Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.

Wow! I’m honored! I came in #12 on Rori’s Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2012 list! Thanks to all of you who read, comment and share my posts! Also thanks for voting for me. I’m am beside myself with happiness :)

That is the worst word I know. It has horrific connotations and nothing can make it right. Ever. I cringed at the thought of using it, but I chose to write the most terrible word I know to make a point. So why, you ask yourself, would you drop the “N bomb” Ken? I used that terrible word to draw attention to how words can anger us. In 1994 there was a trans-man

I love everything about butch women, and I always have. More feminine girls just don’t do anything for me sexually- I can objectively admire their beauty and sexiness, but in the end, it’s when I see a woman who is androgynous, boyish, or plain out manly, my heart starts to pitter-patter. So let me sing an ode to butches here, because …

September 23rd, 2012 is Bisexuality Day. We need more visible bisexual role-models and supporters so I’m doing my part! I dig everyone– dudes, chicks, people whose plumbing traditionally matches their gender, those who don’t match and everywhere in between.  Some may call that bisexual, some pansexual and some queer.  Whatever label you choose for yourself ultimately doesn’t matter.  What matters [...]

Last night I hosted a 50 Shades of Grey Book Club at the Elmwood Park Public Library.  I’ve hosted other 50 Shades book clubs but this was my first at a public library. What a wonderful turn-out!  This was the largest book club audience the library had ever hosted!  I was very much taken aback by the diversity of the [...]

This is a must read article on pubic hair from Good Vibrations Blog. It’s like the author, Alyssa Royse, and I are twin souls. Like her, I didn’t remove my pubic hair until well into my 30′s. I can’t love my hair(less)style enough. Sometimes I wonder why I didn’t do it sooner. Sex is better for me when I’m hairless.  I also [...]

The Travel Channel segment we filmed in May aired last night. Woo-hoo! It’s for a show called Extreme Tours and features some of the stops I visit hosting a Weird Chicago Tours Red Light District Tour.

Through the months of editing I kept wondering how they were going to dumb-down the sex tour for G-rated television. On the tour we don’t hold back. How was I going to do a sex toy demonstration, visit a BDSM Dungeon or do and say even a fraction of the stuff that normally occurs?

Huge thanks to Get Lusty for interviewing me!  Below is a re-print of the original article/podcast published on GetLusty.com.  Also, if you haven’t checked out Get Lusty, get started!  They post a bunch of sex positive, awesome articles every day.  You can also find other podcasts on the site featuring people like Pro-Dommes,  BDSM enthusiasts and other big-name sex educators like [...]

Hello Glorious Readers! I want to take a minute to say thank you for all of your support.  Nearly every day I receive a nice note from someone thanking me for the information and services I provide.  That’s why I love my job.  Sure, I could make a ton more cash working for the man (and I used to) but [...]

This was written by Wintersong and previously appeared on BarkingShaman.com.  It specifically applies to safety issues around play that involves blood product, such as play-piercing and cutting play. Although this writing specifically applies to blood-play scenarios in a BDSM context, sexually active people from all walks of life can benefit from giving it a read.  Please keep in mind, there may be  different considerations regarding [...]

What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it?
I do a whole bunch of odd and interesting things. Strangely, all of my work centers around two of life’s most intriguing, misunderstood and mysterious taboos: sex and death.

Here’s a quick guide to being secure with who you are, being comfortable with your own feelings, and being able to maintain emotional independence without feeling stifled by other people’s responses…

  In the video above Ken and I discuss some of the techniques from these prostate milking instructional videos we tried.  They were a great success!  We encountered some things we didn’t expect (most of them good!) and prostate massage is something we’ve since incorporated on a regular basis in our lovemaking. Recapping some of the points we covered in our [...]

Over the next month or so I’ll be focusing on subjects relating to non-monogamy.  I’ll answer many questions for you— from defining lexicon (what’s Poly vs. Open Relationship vs. Mono/Poly, etc) to walking you through the how-to’s (how to approach someone for a threesome, how to ask your partner for an open relationship, etc.) and everywhere in between.This series of [...]

**“When I look at most models, actresses, and singers in mainstream, I find that I know very little about the person. Many A-listers don’t have an account on Twitter or Facebook, and if they do it’s usually maintained by an assistant or a PR firm simply telling you where to find them next (movie, CD, magazine cover, etc).    But [...]

A few days ago, one of the local radio news stations interviewed us for their “50 shades of Grey” series. I was interested in talking about the book. One way or the other it’s an important book right now. It’s on paper, it’s got a cardboard cover, it’s written with an incessant and continual internal dialogue that makes you want to stick needles in your face, it’s on the bestseller list.

  My fellow literary snobs, sex educators, kinksters & sex positive community members may be shocked to hear me say this: STOP HATING ON 50 SHADES OF GREY! Yep, you read that correctly.  I’m defending 50 Shades of Grey. Whether you have read the book or not, there are a few things we need to get out of the way.  First, lets [...]

May is National Masturbation Month!  This article was written for and originally appeared in Lidia-Anain’s Sex Love Joy.  During the entire month of May, Sex Love Joy will feature a collection of masturbation stories by various authors.  Check back periodically for new writing.      I’ve always masturbated A LOT. I was about 5 years old when I started. I [...]

As many of you know, I am a tour guide for Weird Chicago Tours.  I host every type of tour offered at Weird Chicago — Serial Killer, Weird & Haunted, Devil & The White City, True Crime & Gangster, etc.   On this site I am most known for hosting Weird Chicago Red Light District Sex Tours.  The Sex Tours have become so popular, they are coming soon [...]

Upon meeting a prospective partner in a coffee shop or at the corner bar, they often become “Coffee Shop Hottie” or “Corner Bar Dude” in casual conversation amongst friends. When I first met the love of my life, my best friend and I secretly referred to him as “The Sex Clown.”

When I was about 7 years old I accidentally heard my mother having sex. I stayed quiet as not to be discovered but had to keep listening out of sheer curiosity. At one point I heard her say in a whispery, trying-too-hard, bedroom voice “put it . . . between my . . . breaasssttts!”

I’m breaking from my usual format to ask for your help. By now you’ve all heard about the horrors the people Japan are facing in the wake of the recent earthquakes, tsunami and nuclear scare.  Thousands have been left homeless and large portions of Japan stand in ruin.  Ken Melvoin-Berg (from Weird Chicago Tours and my partner in love, crime, [...]

TMZ reported today former Smashing Pumpkins bassist, D’arcy Wretzky, was arrested in Michigan. Take a good look at the mug-shot. I know what you’re thinking: “OMG! Darcy, honey! What happened!? Are those little meth sores on your face? Thank science we can’t see your teeth!” Wretzky wasn’t jailed for what you might think, folks. She was nabbed for failure to [...]

I run a few Facebook fan pages. I have always found it incredibly frustrating as the administrator of a page I can’t get notifications of comments and new posts as I do on my personal page. A couple of weeks ago I found HyperAlerts, a free new 3rd party service that sends you an e-mail whenever you have a new [...]