Category: Relationships & Non-Monogamy
Ken & Sunny on Full Disclosure Podcast with Eric Barry
Eric Barry, Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg

Listen in as we talk about dating etiquette, Ken’s rule about first dates, the Chicago kink scene, and a whole mess of interesting things that prompted Eric to call us his “most hardcore people on the show to date.” Eric’s takeaways: “Highlights include old ladies and puppetry of the penis, AVN midget blowbangs, ritual fucking on the altar of a seminary school, shoving balloon animals into buttholes and more.”

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15 Easy, Simple, Quick Tactics to Increase Playtime in Your Relationship
couple bungee jumping

We would probably all differ a little in our answer to the question “What is a relationship for” but one thing we can probably all agree on is the idea that it needs to be fun. Fun is what happens between you and your partner when you put aside the problems in your life, in your world, maybe in your relationship itself, and “throw the old pigskin around” figuratively.

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How to Really Tell if a Woman is Having an Orgasm
How to Really Tell if a Woman is Having an Orgasm

I came across this article today from Dan & Jennifer on how to tell if a woman is faking orgasm.

I hit full WTF mode at #6: “Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards”

“This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to ‘test’ her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens.”

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Learning from Kink: Polyamory and Swinging – My Visit with The Kinky Diva
Learning from Kink: Polyamory and Swinging – My Visit with The Kinky Diva

This is part two of What Kink Can Teach Us. The “alternative” community we will be focusing on this week is polyamory and swingers. I must admit. I am completely monogamous and look for/require […]

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Why I Don’t Try To Prevent HIV (and don’t think you should either)
Why I Don’t Try To Prevent HIV (and don’t think you should either)

This was written by Wintersong and previously appeared on BarkingShaman.com.  It specifically applies to safety issues around play that involves blood product, such as play-piercing and cutting play. Although this writing specifically applies to blood-play scenarios in a BDSM context, sexually active people from all walks of life can benefit from giving it a read.  Please keep in mind, there may be  different considerations regarding […]

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Rules, Roleplays & Rituals: How to Bring Kink into Your Bedroom
Rules, Roleplays & Rituals: How to Bring Kink into Your Bedroom

Whenever I talk to people who have little to no experience in bondage, domination, sadism, submission, masochism, or the like, I ask them to imagine for me a couple. They are named Chris and Alex. First of all,

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7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dominant
7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dominant

Just what is a Daddy Dom? Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. He chooses the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of dominance and submission (D/s). Let’s get one thing out of the way right at the beginning. A Daddy Dom does not

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“A Guide to Emotional Independence” or “How I learned to Stop Worrying & Not Give a Fuck What Other People Think”
“A Guide to Emotional Independence” or “How I learned to Stop Worrying & Not Give a Fuck What Other People Think”

Here’s a quick guide to being secure with who you are, being comfortable with your own feelings, and being able to maintain emotional independence without feeling stifled by other people’s responses…

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Teaching an Old Dog New Tricks: 30 Days of Polyamory
Teaching an Old Dog New Tricks: 30 Days of Polyamory

Over the next month or so I’ll be focusing on subjects relating to non-monogamy.  I’ll answer many questions for you— from defining lexicon (what’s Poly vs. Open Relationship vs. Mono/Poly, etc) to walking you through the how-to’s (how to approach someone for a threesome, how to ask your partner for an open relationship, etc.) and everywhere in between.This series of […]

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Trading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink Curious Women
Trading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink Curious Women

Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance.  CaféMom/The Stir’s “Women Who Want ’50 Shades of Grey’ Sex Can’t Always Be on Top” is the latest in a string of blog posts giving women horrible advice about how […]

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BDSM Without Sex?
BDSM Without Sex?

When we hear words like fetish, kink, BDSM or S&M we immediately think sex.

BDSM is an acronym many in the mainstream consider synonymous with S&M. Technically it stands for bondage & discipline (BD), dominance & submission (DS) and sadism & masochism (SM). In other words– whatever it is you like that’s kinky, whether on the giving or receiving end, is included in the all encompassing label of BDSM.

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Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist
Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist

Upon meeting a prospective partner in a coffee shop or at the corner bar, they often become “Coffee Shop Hottie” or “Corner Bar Dude” in casual conversation amongst friends. When I first met the love of my life, my best friend and I secretly referred to him as “The Sex Clown.”

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Navigating Consent & Setting Sexual Boundaries: Yes/No/Maybe List
Navigating Consent & Setting Sexual Boundaries: Yes/No/Maybe List

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  It’s a topic I am very passionate about. I devoted a lot of time this month to speaking and teaching about sexual consent.  In my Sexual Consent Workshops we learn about consent in the context of various relationships like a hook-up, dating, marriage/domestic partnership, a swinging encounter or a BDSM scene. We’ve all heard […]

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