Well, we weren’t ON Sandra but we were guests on her podcast!  This episode was all about clown fetish.  Oh, you didn’t know about the clown thing Ken & I have?  Here’s a clown sex primer I wrote, Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist. After you’re done reading that, check out the Sex Nerd Sandra [...]

When I first saw the Gyration Sensations Gyrating Pleasing Flutter vibrator I didn’t know what to make of it. It kind of looks like a platypus, right? Here’s a quick round-up for those of you doing a drive by. For all the juicy details watch my video review below.

I love reading sex tips. There seems to be a chapter dedicated to great sex in every newsstand woman’s magazine. Sometimes however, I wonder if the authors have tried the suggestions they’ve written as most tend to lack originality and inspiration.

You know, I think I’m becoming cynical. The more sex toys I try, the more it takes to pique my interest. Unless it has a minimum of 8 fully functioning tentacles, makes me coffee or is controlled by mind power—ehhhh it just looks like another vibrator to me. Vibrator, schmibrator. I’m up to my neck in sex toys. My eyebrows don’t easily raise anymore.

Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.

I consume sex ed related material on the web at an alarming rate. I always have my nose in a blog or video. The misconceptions I come across about silicone personal lubricants are plenty.

This interactive porn map by porn MD displays the top 10 pornographic search terms over a 6 month period by country and U.S. state. I’m really happy to see the #1 term both in the U.S. and Illinois is “MILF.” I certainly do live in the right place!

The Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Phoebe vibrator by CalExotics is a clitoral stimulator. It certainly has its benefits and drawbacks. Check out the video below where I discuss them in detail.

I came across this article today from Dan & Jennifer on how to tell if a woman is faking orgasm.

I hit full WTF mode at #6: “Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards”

“This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to ‘test’ her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens.”

If you’ve been on the giving end of a blow job, you’ve likely encountered the dreaded gag reflex. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it.

This month CalExotics sent me the Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit to review. I was so happy when I opened the box! This was a no brainer! I absolutely LOVE this version of rabbit vibrator. Just a few months back I reviewed the Rechargeable Black Label Anniversary Edition Rabbit which has the same features as the triple motor version. The only difference between the two is one is rechargeable and the other takes batteries.

For all of you looking to get some charity work in while you get off please consider shopping with Desire and Pleasure. You can get an additional 15% off in December by using the code BLOG013 during checkout. FPA has worked hard for the last 82 years fighting for the rights of women and advocating for fulfilling sex for all. If you’d like to join the cause while you treat your groin to something special, I highly recommend taking a peek at Desire and Pleasure. It’s the best way to get on the naughty AND nice list this year!

Whenever I hear about someone that is personally conservative or belongs to an orthodox sex negative religion, I want to know if they get freaky behind closed doors.

Do Mormons have sex on their periods? Do they give oral or anal sex? Do they practice BDSM and spank each other when nobody is looking? Do they do it with the lights on while choking their beloved and screwing up against a wall?

Wow, this is a great short film! It also has so many layers. On the surface it’s got a very indie/dark comedy feel. It also brings to light what many people exploring BDSM wrestle with: How to reconcile kink with your feminist beliefs.

It also touches on the importance of safewords and the sometimes murky waters of consent.

I really wanted to love the CalExotics Bunny Dreams Vibrator. I really did. It’s a great concept.

Check this out: you insert the slim 3” shaft into the vagina while the bunny ears wrap around the outside and tickle the clit. The insertable portion has a curve that hits the g-spot. It’s designed to stay in place and deliver hands free orgasms. Bunny Dreams is also so small and compact it can be worn under clothing for a little fun on the go!

I’ve been very busy the last few weeks and one of the things I’ve been working on is a surprise for you! I got together with the wonderful folks at Lovehoney.com and Sliquid to bring you my biggest contest yet— just in time for the holidays!

If you’ve watched Barbarella or Sleeper one too many times and have been anxiously awaiting the future of sci-fi sex robots and orgasm machines, your time is now. Today’s most exciting sex toys are using technology to push the boundaries of play, both alone and with a partner.

Inflatable anal toys are one of those mysterious adult products associated with fetishism and considered too “hardcore” for many people. In my experience more people will reach for a large butt plug over and expandable one. Are back-door inflatables really worth the hype or is this a novelty you should leave on the shelf? I personally think they are a wonderful invention worth consideration. This is why:

This is a touchy subject, but I don’t feel like having sex all the time anymore. Surprise! I’m getting older. Soon I will be 44 years of age. I am into alternate sexual practices; I’m in an open relationship, BDSM, and have multiple sexual partners. I should always be in the mood, right? Wrong!

I hit the jackpot! I won the orgasm lottery!

I have not been able to stop masturbating since California Exotics sent me the just released 30th Anniversary Black Label Rechargeable Jack Rabbit to review. It’s been about a month. I’m weak. Send food. And more lube!

We need to get our act together and provide realistic, comprehensive sex ed in schools.

This is a must read article on pubic hair from Good Vibrations Blog. It’s like the author, Alyssa Royse, and I are twin souls. Like her, I didn’t remove my pubic hair until well into my 30′s. I can’t love my hair(less)style enough. Sometimes I wonder why I didn’t do it sooner. Sex is better for me when I’m hairless.  I also [...]

As a sex educator, S&M dungeon owner (The Studio) and pleasure advocate involved in the BDSM lifestyle, I’ve had the pleasure of trying all sorts of interesting sex toys many folks don’t ever see. I’m also fortunate to be one of the people that tests, reviews and writes about new products as they come out.

September 12th, 2012 is Global Female Condom Day.  I am so thankful I discovered the many joys of female condoms so, of course, I’m here to spread the word! Contrary to popular belief, female condoms can be used by people of any gender in man/woman, woman/woman or man/man sexual encounters. To learn more, watch my Youtube video below to find [...]

It’s Anal August! To celebrate I’ve put together a video about safer analingus (and bonus safer cunnilingus too!). Most of us know we can use dental dams for oral sex but did you know you can also use a condom or a latex glove (or latex alternative glove if you have a latex allergy)?  Also one of these options allows [...]

This month the fine folks at California Exotics sent me a wireless remote controlled egg called Body & Soul Remote 1 to review. First of all, I love remote controlled sex toys for couples play.  The first time I got one was as a birthday present a few years ago.  My partner, Ken, had me open my gift right before [...]

Huge thanks to Get Lusty for interviewing me!  Below is a re-print of the original article/podcast published on GetLusty.com.  Also, if you haven’t checked out Get Lusty, get started!  They post a bunch of sex positive, awesome articles every day.  You can also find other podcasts on the site featuring people like Pro-Dommes,  BDSM enthusiasts and other big-name sex educators like [...]

This is part two of What Kink Can Teach Us. The “alternative” community we will be focusing on this week is polyamory and swingers. I must admit. I am completely monogamous and look for/require [...]

This was written by Wintersong and previously appeared on BarkingShaman.com.  It specifically applies to safety issues around play that involves blood product, such as play-piercing and cutting play. Although this writing specifically applies to blood-play scenarios in a BDSM context, sexually active people from all walks of life can benefit from giving it a read.  Please keep in mind, there may be  different considerations regarding [...]

When I first started buying sex toys, I would usually go the cheap route and get whatever looked the most tempting for under $30. I was in college, so you couldn’t blame me, but of course, these toys didn’t last long. They’d break in half mid-session or mysteriously die without any explanation. I’ve since learned the err of my ways, [...]