Love it or hate it, THIS article about rescued marriages is what Fifty Shades of Grey is doing for a lot of people– and that’s a wonderful thing. I get letters from folks all the time about saved marriages and renewed relationships. As educators and BDSM community members, poo-pooing the book (as many in this article quoting 50 sex educators/fetishists on 50 shades do) does nothing but shame people’s very real, valid, life changing experiences. And what we want most is for them to enter the world of BDSM in a safe, sane, and consensual manner (or in a RACK-y way if that’s more their thing ;) ) and learn to differentiate between fantasy inspiration and healthy real-life kink.
If you’re a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey but haven’t seen Secretary, SEE SECRETARY! It’s a much more realistic representation of BDSM, it’s suuuuper hot, and the chemistry between the James Spader and Maggie Gyllenaal is amazing!
Each week following the airing of a new Sex with Sunny Megatron episode I post follow-up videos on my youtube page. The discussion video for episode 1 is up and embedded below. The theme of episode 1 is #Recharge and in the video I talk a little about the episode and suggest additional ways you can recharge your sex life.
If you haven’t heard the buzz, my husband, Ken and I have been busy all summer filming a TV show. Yep! I’m going to be on the tee-vee! Ken is the consulting producer and I am the host and co-executive producer of a new show about sex on Showtime called SEX with Sunny Megatron.
Did you know that as a CalExotics Expert Sexpert I make kinky educational and product videos? My web Series is called Kinky Korner. So far I have nearly 30 videos in this series in which I teach you kink basics and give you a peek at some of my favorite sexytime products.
Let me tell you, this cute little flower unleashes some serious power! <– it also inspires me to rhyme like a pro, ha! Also, in this video I tell you a little bit about my show. Yes, SHOW! Like on TV, this fall!
Late last night Ken and I were bombarded with messages and tweets: “You’re on Comedy Central!” “OMG! Your Blow Job Class is on @Midnight with Chris Hardwick!” What?! Yep!
Recently I was a guest on the SiriusXM radio show, On Air with Club CalExotics hosted by Sheena Metal. Three words: SO MUCH FUN!
Sheena and I talked about exploring kink and took questions from callers. We finished up the episode with my list of Top 10 Fetish Toys of 2013. These are must-have, classic items everyone should have in their naughty toolbox.
Just like Oprah has a list of her favorite products of the year, I have mine too. Only mine are a lot dirtier. Here are my favorite naughty things of 2013 . . .
When we were in Vegas covering the AVN Expo, the Outside the Box crew and I took it to the streets. Hilarity ensues when you talk to strangers about their sex lives. We also touched on bestialty (I think? I didn’t imagine that, right!? that *is* what we were talking about??). I’ll let you judge for yourself!
If there is one wish I had for the world it would be MAKE MORE AUTHENTIC PORN! Okay, maybe that wouldn’t be my first wish. First I’d wish for things like world peace and unlimited wishes.
Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.
I consume sex ed related material on the web at an alarming rate. I always have my nose in a blog or video. The misconceptions I come across about silicone personal lubricants are plenty.
ADONIS CONQUEROR! That sounds like something that would leave a wake of exhausted and happily pleasured genitals in its path. Since it takes a lot to satisfy me and I’m a bit of a size queen, the mental image I had of the Adonis Conqueror resembled a jack hammer in the shape and size of a fist. And, of course, it was made out of sparkling solid gold. RAWR!
I’m super excited! Over the last couple of months I revamped my website (what do you think?), scheduled a ton of awesome great classes, been traveling and filming with Ken for an upcoming TV show AND I’ll have even MORE awesome stuff to announce soon. I’m feeling so great, I want to celebrate! Do you know how? By giving away one of my most favorite sex toys EVER!!!
The Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Phoebe vibrator by CalExotics is a clitoral stimulator. It certainly has its benefits and drawbacks. Check out the video below where I discuss them in detail.
If you’ve been on the giving end of a blow job, you’ve likely encountered the dreaded gag reflex. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it.
This month CalExotics sent me the Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit to review. I was so happy when I opened the box! This was a no brainer! I absolutely LOVE this version of rabbit vibrator. Just a few months back I reviewed the Rechargeable Black Label Anniversary Edition Rabbit which has the same features as the triple motor version. The only difference between the two is one is rechargeable and the other takes batteries.
Wow, this is a great short film! It also has so many layers. On the surface it’s got a very indie/dark comedy feel. It also brings to light what many people exploring BDSM wrestle with: How to reconcile kink with your feminist beliefs.
It also touches on the importance of safewords and the sometimes murky waters of consent.
I hit the jackpot! I won the orgasm lottery!
I have not been able to stop masturbating since California Exotics sent me the just released 30th Anniversary Black Label Rechargeable Jack Rabbit to review. It’s been about a month. I’m weak. Send food. And more lube!
September 23rd, 2012 is Bisexuality Day. We need more visible bisexual role-models and supporters so I’m doing my part! I dig everyone– dudes, chicks, people whose plumbing traditionally matches their gender, those who don’t match and everywhere in between. Some may call that bisexual, some pansexual and some queer. Whatever label you choose for yourself ultimately doesn’t matter. What matters […]
The Travel Channel segment we filmed in May aired last night. Woo-hoo! It’s for a show called Extreme Tours and features some of the stops I visit hosting a Weird Chicago Tours Red Light District Tour.
Through the months of editing I kept wondering how they were going to dumb-down the sex tour for G-rated television. On the tour we don’t hold back. How was I going to do a sex toy demonstration, visit a BDSM Dungeon or do and say even a fraction of the stuff that normally occurs?
What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it?
I do a whole bunch of odd and interesting things. Strangely, all of my work centers around two of life’s most intriguing, misunderstood and mysterious taboos: sex and death.
Very rarely do I fall in love with a vibrator. I’m picky, tough to arouse and since I’ve sampled some of the best toys out there, I have very high standards. The Jimmyjane Form 2 is one of my favorite vibrators of all time (the other 2 are the California Exotics Silicone Rabbit and The Wahl Massager). Normally, I don’t like […]
In the video above Ken and I discuss some of the techniques from these prostate milking instructional videos we tried. They were a great success! We encountered some things we didn’t expect (most of them good!) and prostate massage is something we’ve since incorporated on a regular basis in our lovemaking. Recapping some of the points we covered in our […]
Before I used the Lia ® Pleasers™ Pleaser 1, I was intrigued by the vibration options. It offers 10 different settings/pulses. It’s also waterproof and made from silicone, which are two big pluses in my book. When I first turned on the toy it was loud. Really loud. The noise is a definite drawback of the Lia Pleaser 1. […]
This Liquid Plumr Deep Impact TV ad is hilarious! I am also thankful to see the portrayal of a seemingly realistic woman who not only digs sex but isn’t afraid to get her freak on. Hurray for MFM threesomes with hot plumbers! Whew! *fans self* I think I need my drain snaked and my pipes flushed! Related Posts:What’s […]
As if we need another reason to love Ellen. Ellen Reads from 50 Shades of Grey: Is it wrong that I can’t get the image of Ellen topping Barbara Walters out of my head? And that I find it kind of hot (someone photoshop me that!)? You did hear Barbara practically came out as kinky on The View, right? […]
This hilarious letter from a granny declaring to her college aged granddaughter “never do ANAL sex!” apparently wasn’t enough. Check out this latest video where 3 grandmothers watch the Kim Kardashian sex tape. They don’t dig the butt sex either! This had me rolling on the floor! Please, no one tell my grandma I like it in the ass . […]
My partner, Ken, and I have been conducting a bit of research on prostate milking. You know, intense hands on research strictly for SCIENCE! Below are a few instructional videos on prostate massage we found helpful. In the first, Jennah Adams shows you how to milk the prostate with a gloved finger. In the second Brianna Beach demos with an Aneros […]