Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.

I consume sex ed related material on the web at an alarming rate. I always have my nose in a blog or video. The misconceptions I come across about silicone personal lubricants are plenty.

ADONIS CONQUEROR! That sounds like something that would leave a wake of exhausted and happily pleasured genitals in its path. Since it takes a lot to satisfy me and I’m a bit of a size queen, the mental image I had of the Adonis Conqueror resembled a jack hammer in the shape and size of a fist. And, of course, it was made out of sparkling solid gold. RAWR!

I’m super excited! Over the last couple of months I revamped my website (what do you think?), scheduled a ton of awesome great classes, been traveling and filming with Ken for an upcoming TV show AND I’ll have even MORE awesome stuff to announce soon. I’m feeling so great, I want to celebrate! Do you know how? By giving away one of my most favorite sex toys EVER!!!

The Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Phoebe vibrator by CalExotics is a clitoral stimulator. It certainly has its benefits and drawbacks. Check out the video below where I discuss them in detail.

If you’ve been on the giving end of a blow job, you’ve likely encountered the dreaded gag reflex. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it.

This month CalExotics sent me the Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit to review. I was so happy when I opened the box! This was a no brainer! I absolutely LOVE this version of rabbit vibrator. Just a few months back I reviewed the Rechargeable Black Label Anniversary Edition Rabbit which has the same features as the triple motor version. The only difference between the two is one is rechargeable and the other takes batteries.

Wow, this is a great short film! It also has so many layers. On the surface it’s got a very indie/dark comedy feel. It also brings to light what many people exploring BDSM wrestle with: How to reconcile kink with your feminist beliefs.

It also touches on the importance of safewords and the sometimes murky waters of consent.

I hit the jackpot! I won the orgasm lottery!

I have not been able to stop masturbating since California Exotics sent me the just released 30th Anniversary Black Label Rechargeable Jack Rabbit to review. It’s been about a month. I’m weak. Send food. And more lube!

September 23rd, 2012 is Bisexuality Day. We need more visible bisexual role-models and supporters so I’m doing my part! I dig everyone– dudes, chicks, people whose plumbing traditionally matches their gender, those who don’t match and everywhere in between.  Some may call that bisexual, some pansexual and some queer.  Whatever label you choose for yourself ultimately doesn’t matter.  What matters [...]

The Travel Channel segment we filmed in May aired last night. Woo-hoo! It’s for a show called Extreme Tours and features some of the stops I visit hosting a Weird Chicago Tours Red Light District Tour.

Through the months of editing I kept wondering how they were going to dumb-down the sex tour for G-rated television. On the tour we don’t hold back. How was I going to do a sex toy demonstration, visit a BDSM Dungeon or do and say even a fraction of the stuff that normally occurs?

What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it?
I do a whole bunch of odd and interesting things. Strangely, all of my work centers around two of life’s most intriguing, misunderstood and mysterious taboos: sex and death.

Very rarely do I fall in love with a vibrator.  I’m picky, tough to arouse and since I’ve sampled some of the best toys out there, I have very high standards.  The Jimmyjane Form 2 is one of my favorite vibrators of all time (the other 2 are the California Exotics Silicone Rabbit and The Wahl Massager). Normally, I don’t like [...]

  In the video above Ken and I discuss some of the techniques from these prostate milking instructional videos we tried.  They were a great success!  We encountered some things we didn’t expect (most of them good!) and prostate massage is something we’ve since incorporated on a regular basis in our lovemaking. Recapping some of the points we covered in our [...]

  Before I used the Lia ® Pleasers™ Pleaser 1, I was intrigued by the vibration options.  It offers 10 different settings/pulses.  It’s also waterproof and made from silicone, which are two big pluses in my book. When I first turned on the toy it was loud. Really loud. The noise is a definite drawback of the Lia Pleaser 1. [...]

  This Liquid Plumr Deep Impact TV ad is hilarious!  I am also thankful to see the portrayal of a seemingly realistic woman who not only digs sex but isn’t afraid to get her freak on.  Hurray for MFM threesomes with hot plumbers! Whew! *fans self* I think I need my drain snaked and my pipes flushed!  

  As if we need another reason to love Ellen.  Ellen Reads from 50 Shades of Grey:     Is it wrong that I can’t get the image of Ellen topping Barbara Walters out of my head? And that I find it kind of hot (someone photoshop me that!)? You did hear Barbara practically came out as kinky on The View, right? [...]

This hilarious letter from a granny declaring to her college aged granddaughter “never do ANAL sex!” apparently wasn’t enough. Check out this latest video where 3 grandmothers watch the Kim Kardashian sex tape.  They don’t dig the butt sex either! This had me rolling on the floor! Please, no one tell my grandma I like it in the ass . [...]

My partner, Ken, and I have been conducting a bit of research on prostate milking.  You know, intense hands on research strictly for SCIENCE! Below are a few instructional videos on prostate massage we found helpful.  In the first, Jennah Adams shows you how to milk the prostate with a gloved finger. In the second Brianna Beach demos with an Aneros [...]

    There are a few things you may want to ask yourself before you buy your very first sex toy. For starters, you need to determine if you prefer vaginal penetration or clitoral stimulation. Being your first toy, what if you aren’t exactly sure? The toy I most often recommend to first time sex toy buyers is the California Exotics Silicone [...]

  This is a wonderful video on how to stimulate the g-spot I have been referring people to for years. You can find clips of the video on various sites but this link has the full 30 plus minute instructional video. Warning, although this is an instructional video, the clip is housed on a porn site and is graphic in [...]

  Watch my video to find out which massager I like better and why.  And don’t forget to enter to win a Wahl Electric Massager of your very own!  Use the widget down below to enter!  You can even submit multiple entries on a daily basis!

    I was recently asked to articulate my opinion on cosmetic vaginal surgery, mainly labiaplasty. I promptly re-watched the film linked above, The Perfect Vagina by Heather Leach and Lisa Rogers.  I originally saw the film about a year ago.  I couldn’t remember all the details from the movie but I did remember it left me confused as to what my opinion [...]

  This PSA from Stand up! is of the best anti-bullying videos I’ve seen.  It made me cry, damn it! Really, everyone NEEDS to see this.   Show your friends, show your kids.  We need this happening in every school.        

I love Lawrence Barraclough and I don’t care if he has a teeny weenie peener.  Besides, size doesn’t matter.  Well, yes it does.  Well . . . no, it doesn’t really.  Okay, maybe a little bit.  No?  What’s the right answer!? This is a must see documentary for men and women alike.  In My Penis and Everyone Else’s, Barraclough makes [...]

So, did they mean this to be funny? Or are they expecting me to put on my Birkenstocks, stop shaving my armpits and tell everyone how beautiful and empowering this is? Because as much as I love to celebrate the beauty of female genitalia, I can’t NOT laugh at this. Oh please, tell me the people that made this think [...]

Oh Margaret, I love you. Can I have your babies? My puss, churns out cute Cho babies Your puss, foaming with rabies My puss, digs Mar-gar-et Your puss, will get put down at the vet Alright, I’ll stop.

Comedian and improv performer Rebecca Drysdale hit a home run with her video for Dan Savage’s It Gets Better Project. Best. ‘It Gets Better’ video. Ever. If you are a parent to a teen, you should have your child watch this.  Think the language is too harsh for a 14, 15 or 16 year old?  Get the stick out of [...]

Check out Volkswagen’s new spot set to air in the Super Bowl this Sunday. Love it! Now, if they could only invent a new hybrid that would run on The Force . . . .