Is Flibanserin really Viagra for women? That description is misleading. It also has a number of concerning side effects. Find out what it does and doesn’t do and how you can produce its effects on your own without drugs.
Packing is the act of wearing something in the crotch of one’s pants to give the appearance of a penis. Some people pack with socks or other items found around the home while others buy commercially made prosthetic devices commonly known as packers. Some styles of packers can be used for penetrative sex.
22% of Americans personally know someone who is transgender and that number is steadily growing. Many of us are confused about what being transgender means. After Jenner made his* announcement, more people are asking, “What does it mean to be transgender?” This transgender 101 will help get you started.
Are blow jobs fun to give or a chore? Eric Barry invited Mary Zee– a lover of fellatio, Michelle Yoder– a disliker of blow jobs and me– a former hater but now enthusiastic member of #TeamBlowJob, to debate it out on the Full Disclosure Podcast.
Love it or hate it, THIS article about rescued marriages is what Fifty Shades of Grey is doing for a lot of people– and that’s a wonderful thing. I get letters from folks all the time about saved marriages and renewed relationships. As educators and BDSM community members, poo-pooing the book (as many in this article quoting 50 sex educators/fetishists on 50 shades do) does nothing but shame people’s very real, valid, life changing experiences. And what we want most is for them to enter the world of BDSM in a safe, sane, and consensual manner (or in a RACK-y way if that’s more their thing ;) ) and learn to differentiate between fantasy inspiration and healthy real-life kink.
What if there are repercussions as a result of that doctor finding out exactly how you got those bruises all over your ass? What if they judge or shame you? What if their biases affect the quality of care they give you?
Sexual taboos are different for everyone. We all have things we absolutely won’t do, however, most of us also have a few naughty, unmentionable, and totally hot taboos that really turn us on. These are the things we’ve been itching to try but because they are a little *ehemm* different, may seem too awkward to bring up to a partner. Halloween can be the perfect time to dive into some of these unchartered waters. Here are 4 sexy taboos that you can explore this October:
Despite Chris Cox, Facebook’s VP of Product, stating yesterday that everyone has the right to use their “authentic identity” rather than their legal name on Facebook, I woke up this morning locked out of my account. A message popped up stating I had to provide a “government issued ID” to change my name back to the only name I’ve used for many years.
Self identified sex geek or not, odds are you’ll find something within its pages that resonates with you. You’ll find something liberating, inspiring, and something make makes you think, “Huh, I never thought about it that way.”
Hands down, this compilation contains some of the best writings of sex and sexuality I have ever read.
Well, we weren’t ON Sandra but we were guests on her podcast! This episode was all about clown fetish. Oh, you didn’t know about the clown thing Ken & I have? Here’s a clown sex primer I wrote, Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist. After you’re done reading that, check out the Sex Nerd Sandra […]
We would probably all differ a little in our answer to the question “What is a relationship for” but one thing we can probably all agree on is the idea that it needs to be fun. Fun is what happens between you and your partner when you put aside the problems in your life, in your world, maybe in your relationship itself, and “throw the old pigskin around” figuratively.
Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.
This is a touchy subject, but I don’t feel like having sex all the time anymore. Surprise! I’m getting older. Soon I will be 44 years of age. I am into alternate sexual practices; I’m in an open relationship, BDSM, and have multiple sexual partners. I should always be in the mood, right? Wrong!
I love everything about butch women, and I always have. More feminine girls just don’t do anything for me sexually- I can objectively admire their beauty and sexiness, but in the end, it’s when I see a woman who is androgynous, boyish, or plain out manly, my heart starts to pitter-patter. So let me sing an ode to butches here, because …
September 23rd, 2012 is Bisexuality Day. We need more visible bisexual role-models and supporters so I’m doing my part! I dig everyone– dudes, chicks, people whose plumbing traditionally matches their gender, those who don’t match and everywhere in between. Some may call that bisexual, some pansexual and some queer. Whatever label you choose for yourself ultimately doesn’t matter. What matters […]
This is a must read article on pubic hair from Good Vibrations Blog. It’s like the author, Alyssa Royse, and I are twin souls. Like her, I didn’t remove my pubic hair until well into my 30’s. I can’t love my hair(less)style enough. Sometimes I wonder why I didn’t do it sooner. Sex is better for me when I’m hairless. I also […]
Female condoms feel AMAZING! As someone with a vagina I can personally say using female condoms feels a bit more like sex without a condom. The male lovers I have used them with say they feel especially out of this world to a penis. Many men say it’s close to the sensation of bare-backing. Female condoms feel so natural because they warm up to the temperature of the wearers body. As an added bonus, when used for man/woman sex, the clitoris can be stimulated by the condoms outer ring and the tip of the penis stimulated by the inner ring.
Huge thanks to Get Lusty for interviewing me! Below is a re-print of the original article/podcast published on GetLusty.com. Also, if you haven’t checked out Get Lusty, get started! They post a bunch of sex positive, awesome articles every day. You can also find other podcasts on the site featuring people like Pro-Dommes, BDSM enthusiasts and other big-name sex educators like […]
This is part two of What Kink Can Teach Us. The “alternative” community we will be focusing on this week is polyamory and swingers. I must admit. I am completely monogamous and look for/require […]
When it comes to vanillas and kinksters there’s a real “us” and “them” attitude. It’s like the Sharks and the Jets (Yes, I’m showing my age . . . and my love for musicals. Quiet, or I’ll dance fight your ass.). If you’re one you can’t be the other. You should never let it be known you occasionally associate with the other side, right? Look how badly that turned out for Tony and Maria.
It’s also assumed if you’re on one side you think the other is less than worthy. Breaking it down to basic stereotypes, vanillas think kinksters are scary and weird. Kinksters think vanillas are unadventurous and boring.
Whenever I talk to people who have little to no experience in bondage, domination, sadism, submission, masochism, or the like, I ask them to imagine for me a couple. They are named Chris and Alex. First of all,
Just what is a Daddy Dom? Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. He chooses the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of dominance and submission (D/s). Let’s get one thing out of the way right at the beginning. A Daddy Dom does not
Here’s a quick guide to being secure with who you are, being comfortable with your own feelings, and being able to maintain emotional independence without feeling stifled by other people’s responses…
I am tired, tired, tired of the “Real Women Have Curves” bullshit floating around Facebook. Yes, I have curves. Sometimes I love them and often I hate them. I have major body image issues. They play on my mind every day, every hour. They dictate the choices I make, the mood I’m in, what I eat/don’t eat, the activities […]
Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance. CaféMom/The Stir’s “Women Who Want ’50 Shades of Grey’ Sex Can’t Always Be on Top” is the latest in a string of blog posts giving women horrible advice about how […]
A few days ago, one of the local radio news stations interviewed us for their “50 shades of Grey” series. I was interested in talking about the book. One way or the other it’s an important book right now. It’s on paper, it’s got a cardboard cover, it’s written with an incessant and continual internal dialogue that makes you want to stick needles in your face, it’s on the bestseller list.
Our BDSM 101: 50 Shades of Taboo class last night at Taboo Tabou was AWESOME! Thanks to everyone who came out! The turnout was wonderful and I’m already receiving all sorts of private notes from attendees thanking Ken and I for teaching the class. BDSM is a complicated subject and 2 hour class is barely enough to cover the basics—the […]
My fellow literary snobs, sex educators, kinksters & sex positive community members may be shocked to hear me say this: STOP HATING ON 50 SHADES OF GREY! Yep, you read that correctly. I’m defending 50 Shades of Grey. Whether you have read the book or not, there are a few things we need to get out of the way. First, lets […]
When we hear words like fetish, kink, BDSM or S&M we immediately think sex.
BDSM is an acronym many in the mainstream consider synonymous with S&M. Technically it stands for bondage & discipline (BD), dominance & submission (DS) and sadism & masochism (SM). In other words– whatever it is you like that’s kinky, whether on the giving or receiving end, is included in the all encompassing label of BDSM.
May is Interational Masturbation Month! This article was written for and originally appeared in Lidia-Anain’s Sex Love Joy. During the entire month of May, Sex Love Joy will feature a collection of masturbation stories by various authors. Check back periodically for new writing. I’ve always masturbated A LOT. I was about 5 years old when I started. I […]