Category: Sexual Identity & Empowerment
Four Sexy Taboos to Explore this Halloween
Sunny Megatron Succubus

Sexual taboos are different for everyone. We all have things we absolutely won’t do, however, most of us also have a few naughty, unmentionable, and totally hot taboos that really turn us on. These are the things we’ve been itching to try but because they are a little *ehemm* different, may seem too awkward to bring up to a partner. Halloween can be the perfect time to dive into some of these unchartered waters. Here are 4 sexy taboos that you can explore this October:

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Dear Facebook, #MyNameIs Sunny Megatron
Facebook real name policy

Despite Chris Cox, Facebook’s VP of Product, stating yesterday that everyone has the right to use their “authentic identity” rather than their legal name on Facebook, I woke up this morning locked out of my account. A message popped up stating I had to provide a “government issued ID” to change my name back to the only name I’ve used for many years.

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Best Sex Writing of 2013 Blog Tour
best sex writing book

Self identified sex geek or not, odds are you’ll find something within its pages that resonates with you. You’ll find something liberating, inspiring, and something make makes you think, “Huh, I never thought about it that way.”

Hands down, this compilation contains some of the best writings of sex and sexuality I have ever read.

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We Were on Sex Nerd Sandra Talking CLOWN SEX!
We Were on Sex Nerd Sandra Talking CLOWN SEX!

Well, we weren’t ON Sandra but we were guests on her podcast!  This episode was all about clown fetish.  Oh, you didn’t know about the clown thing Ken & I have?  Here’s a clown sex primer I wrote, Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist. After you’re done reading that, check out the Sex Nerd Sandra […]

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15 Easy, Simple, Quick Tactics to Increase Playtime in Your Relationship
couple bungee jumping

We would probably all differ a little in our answer to the question “What is a relationship for” but one thing we can probably all agree on is the idea that it needs to be fun. Fun is what happens between you and your partner when you put aside the problems in your life, in your world, maybe in your relationship itself, and “throw the old pigskin around” figuratively.

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If Men Could Menstruate
Gloria Steinem

Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.

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Why Men Don’t Always Want Sex
Why Men Don’t Always Want Sex

This is a touchy subject, but I don’t feel like having sex all the time anymore. Surprise! I’m getting older. Soon I will be 44 years of age. I am into alternate sexual practices; I’m in an open relationship, BDSM, and have multiple sexual partners. I should always be in the mood, right? Wrong!

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Ode to Butches
Ode to Butches

I love everything about butch women, and I always have. More feminine girls just don’t do anything for me sexually- I can objectively admire their beauty and sexiness, but in the end, it’s when I see a woman who is androgynous, boyish, or plain out manly, my heart starts to pitter-patter. So let me sing an ode to butches here, because …

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Happy Bisexuality Day! Why is it so Hard Being Bi?
Happy Bisexuality Day! Why is it so Hard Being Bi?

September 23rd, 2012 is Bisexuality Day. We need more visible bisexual role-models and supporters so I’m doing my part! I dig everyone– dudes, chicks, people whose plumbing traditionally matches their gender, those who don’t match and everywhere in between.  Some may call that bisexual, some pansexual and some queer.  Whatever label you choose for yourself ultimately doesn’t matter.  What matters […]

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Pubic Hair: To Shave Or Not To Shave?
Pubic Hair: To Shave Or Not To Shave?

This is a must read article on pubic hair from Good Vibrations Blog. It’s like the author, Alyssa Royse, and I are twin souls. Like her, I didn’t remove my pubic hair until well into my 30’s. I can’t love my hair(less)style enough. Sometimes I wonder why I didn’t do it sooner. Sex is better for me when I’m hairless.  I also […]

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5 Reasons Why Female Condoms Rock My World
5 Reasons Why Female Condoms Rock My World

Female condoms feel AMAZING! As someone with a vagina I can personally say using female condoms feels a bit more like sex without a condom. The male lovers I have used them with say they feel especially out of this world to a penis. Many men say it’s close to the sensation of bare-backing. Female condoms feel so natural because they warm up to the temperature of the wearers body. As an added bonus, when used for man/woman sex, the clitoris can be stimulated by the condoms outer ring and the tip of the penis stimulated by the inner ring.

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Get Lusty Podcast: Chicago Based Sexuality Educator Sunny Megatron
Get Lusty Podcast: Chicago Based Sexuality Educator Sunny Megatron

Huge thanks to Get Lusty for interviewing me!  Below is a re-print of the original article/podcast published on GetLusty.com.  Also, if you haven’t checked out Get Lusty, get started!  They post a bunch of sex positive, awesome articles every day.  You can also find other podcasts on the site featuring people like Pro-Dommes,  BDSM enthusiasts and other big-name sex educators like […]

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Learning from Kink: Polyamory and Swinging – My Visit with The Kinky Diva
Learning from Kink: Polyamory and Swinging – My Visit with The Kinky Diva

This is part two of What Kink Can Teach Us. The “alternative” community we will be focusing on this week is polyamory and swingers. I must admit. I am completely monogamous and look for/require […]

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The Vanilla vs. Kink Crossover
The Vanilla vs. Kink Crossover

When it comes to vanillas and kinksters there’s a real “us” and “them” attitude. It’s like the Sharks and the Jets (Yes, I’m showing my age . . . and my love for musicals. Quiet, or I’ll dance fight your ass.). If you’re one you can’t be the other. You should never let it be known you occasionally associate with the other side, right? Look how badly that turned out for Tony and Maria.

It’s also assumed if you’re on one side you think the other is less than worthy. Breaking it down to basic stereotypes, vanillas think kinksters are scary and weird. Kinksters think vanillas are unadventurous and boring.

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Rules, Roleplays & Rituals: How to Bring Kink into Your Bedroom
Rules, Roleplays & Rituals: How to Bring Kink into Your Bedroom

Whenever I talk to people who have little to no experience in bondage, domination, sadism, submission, masochism, or the like, I ask them to imagine for me a couple. They are named Chris and Alex. First of all,

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7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dominant
7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dominant

Just what is a Daddy Dom? Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. He chooses the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of dominance and submission (D/s). Let’s get one thing out of the way right at the beginning. A Daddy Dom does not

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“A Guide to Emotional Independence” or “How I learned to Stop Worrying & Not Give a Fuck What Other People Think”
“A Guide to Emotional Independence” or “How I learned to Stop Worrying & Not Give a Fuck What Other People Think”

Here’s a quick guide to being secure with who you are, being comfortable with your own feelings, and being able to maintain emotional independence without feeling stifled by other people’s responses…

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Body Bashing: There is No Wrong Way to Have a Body
Body Bashing: There is No Wrong Way to Have a Body

  I am tired, tired, tired of the “Real Women Have Curves” bullshit floating around Facebook.  Yes, I have curves.  Sometimes I love them and often I hate them.  I have major body image issues.  They play on my mind every day, every hour.  They dictate the choices I make, the mood I’m in, what I eat/don’t eat, the activities […]

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Trading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink Curious Women
Trading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink Curious Women

Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance.  CaféMom/The Stir’s “Women Who Want ’50 Shades of Grey’ Sex Can’t Always Be on Top” is the latest in a string of blog posts giving women horrible advice about how […]

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I Don’t Like You Much, Christian Grey
I Don’t Like You Much, Christian Grey

A few days ago, one of the local radio news stations interviewed us for their “50 shades of Grey” series. I was interested in talking about the book. One way or the other it’s an important book right now. It’s on paper, it’s got a cardboard cover, it’s written with an incessant and continual internal dialogue that makes you want to stick needles in your face, it’s on the bestseller list.

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You want more S&M classes? Get ready for BDSM 201: Dungeons for Beginners!
You want more S&M classes?  Get ready for BDSM 201: Dungeons for Beginners!

Our BDSM 101: 50 Shades of Taboo class last night at Taboo Tabou was AWESOME!  Thanks to everyone who came out! The turnout was wonderful and I’m already receiving all sorts of private notes from attendees thanking Ken and I for teaching the class. BDSM is a complicated subject and 2 hour class is barely enough to cover the basics—the […]

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Stop Hating on 50 Shades of Grey!
Stop Hating on 50 Shades of Grey!

  My fellow literary snobs, sex educators, kinksters & sex positive community members may be shocked to hear me say this: STOP HATING ON 50 SHADES OF GREY! Yep, you read that correctly.  I’m defending 50 Shades of Grey. Whether you have read the book or not, there are a few things we need to get out of the way.  First, lets […]

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BDSM Without Sex?
BDSM Without Sex?

When we hear words like fetish, kink, BDSM or S&M we immediately think sex.

BDSM is an acronym many in the mainstream consider synonymous with S&M. Technically it stands for bondage & discipline (BD), dominance & submission (DS) and sadism & masochism (SM). In other words– whatever it is you like that’s kinky, whether on the giving or receiving end, is included in the all encompassing label of BDSM.

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The Journey of Self Love – My Masturbation Story
The Journey of Self Love – My Masturbation Story

May is National Masturbation Month!  This article was written for and originally appeared in Lidia-Anain’s Sex Love Joy.  During the entire month of May, Sex Love Joy will feature a collection of masturbation stories by various authors.  Check back periodically for new writing.      I’ve always masturbated A LOT. I was about 5 years old when I started. I […]

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Detroit’s Local 4 News Filming of BDSM Club Irresponsible Journalism
Detroit’s Local 4 News Filming of BDSM Club Irresponsible Journalism

I just learned Detroit’s Local 4 News planted someone at a local BDSM Dungeon party and will broadcast images of the guests captured on a hidden camera on tonight’s 11pm news.  The angle of the story is something to the effect of “OMG! Are there really crazy sex parties in our quiet suburban neighborhoods!?”  The story will also attempt to […]

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Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist
Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist

Upon meeting a prospective partner in a coffee shop or at the corner bar, they often become “Coffee Shop Hottie” or “Corner Bar Dude” in casual conversation amongst friends. When I first met the love of my life, my best friend and I secretly referred to him as “The Sex Clown.”

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Navigating Consent & Setting Sexual Boundaries: Yes/No/Maybe List
Navigating Consent & Setting Sexual Boundaries: Yes/No/Maybe List

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  It’s a topic I am very passionate about. I devoted a lot of time this month to speaking and teaching about sexual consent.  In my Sexual Consent Workshops we learn about consent in the context of various relationships like a hook-up, dating, marriage/domestic partnership, a swinging encounter or a BDSM scene. We’ve all heard […]

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My Perfect Vagina is 8 Miles Wide
My Perfect Vagina is 8 Miles Wide

    I was recently asked to articulate my opinion on cosmetic vaginal surgery, mainly labiaplasty. I promptly re-watched the film linked above, The Perfect Vagina by Heather Leach and Lisa Rogers.  I originally saw the film about a year ago.  I couldn’t remember all the details from the movie but I did remember it left me confused as to what my opinion […]

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Put it Between My Breasts: My Mother’s Day Story
Put it Between My Breasts: My Mother’s Day Story

When I was about 7 years old I accidentally heard my mother having sex. I stayed quiet as not to be discovered but had to keep listening out of sheer curiosity. At one point I heard her say in a whispery, trying-too-hard, bedroom voice “put it . . . between my . . . breaasssttts!”

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Stand Up – To Homophobic Bullying
Stand Up – To Homophobic Bullying

  This PSA from Stand up! is of the best anti-bullying videos I’ve seen.  It made me cry, damn it! Really, everyone NEEDS to see this.   Show your friends, show your kids.  We need this happening in every school.         Related Posts:Work It! Sunny Megatron: Sex Educator, Weird Tour Guide, Kinky Blogger! Jimmyjane Form 2 Review: I’m in […]

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