What what? Math in my butt!
Of all the geeky sex facts I have encountered, this one is by far my favorite: If you haven’t had anal play in a while (a month or longer), you can use the Fibonacci sequence of numbers to approximate the circumference of what can now comfortably fit in your butt.
We Were on Sex Nerd Sandra Talking CLOWN SEX!
Well, we weren’t ON Sandra but we were guests on her podcast! This episode was all about clown fetish. Oh, you didn’t know about the clown thing Ken & I have? Here’s a clown sex primer I wrote, Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist. After you’re done reading that, check out the Sex Nerd Sandra [...]
15 Easy, Simple, Quick Tactics to Increase Playtime in Your Relationship
We would probably all differ a little in our answer to the question “What is a relationship for” but one thing we can probably all agree on is the idea that it needs to be fun. Fun is what happens between you and your partner when you put aside the problems in your life, in your world, maybe in your relationship itself, and “throw the old pigskin around” figuratively.
If Men Could Menstruate
Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.
The Truth about Silicone Lube
I consume sex ed related material on the web at an alarming rate. I always have my nose in a blog or video. The misconceptions I come across about silicone personal lubricants are plenty.
Self identified sex geek or not, odds are you’ll find something within its pages that resonates with you. You’ll find something liberating, inspiring, and something make makes you think, “Huh, I never thought about it that way.”
Hands down, this compilation contains some of the best writings of sex and sexuality I have ever read.
Dear Basic Silver Bullet,
I met you years ago. How long has it been? Five? Six years? In all that time you’ve never let me down. Your vibrations are intense and when you are pressed up against me, you take to me the edge each and every time.
If there is one wish I had for the world it would be MAKE MORE AUTHENTIC PORN! Okay, maybe that wouldn’t be my first wish. First I’d wish for things like world peace and unlimited wishes.
When I first saw the Gyration Sensations Gyrating Pleasing Flutter vibrator I didn’t know what to make of it. It kind of looks like a platypus, right? Here’s a quick round-up for those of you doing a drive by. For all the juicy details watch my video review below.
I love reading sex tips. There seems to be a chapter dedicated to great sex in every newsstand woman’s magazine. Sometimes however, I wonder if the authors have tried the suggestions they’ve written as most tend to lack originality and inspiration.
You know, I think I’m becoming cynical. The more sex toys I try, the more it takes to pique my interest. Unless it has a minimum of 8 fully functioning tentacles, makes me coffee or is controlled by mind power—ehhhh it just looks like another vibrator to me. Vibrator, schmibrator. I’m up to my neck in sex toys. My eyebrows don’t easily raise anymore.
This interactive porn map by porn MD displays the top 10 pornographic search terms over a 6 month period by country and U.S. state. I’m really happy to see the #1 term both in the U.S. and Illinois is “MILF.” I certainly do live in the right place!
ADONIS CONQUEROR! That sounds like something that would leave a wake of exhausted and happily pleasured genitals in its path. Since it takes a lot to satisfy me and I’m a bit of a size queen, the mental image I had of the Adonis Conqueror resembled a jack hammer in the shape and size of a fist. And, of course, it was made out of sparkling solid gold. RAWR!
I’m super excited! Over the last couple of months I revamped my website (what do you think?), scheduled a ton of awesome great classes, been traveling and filming with Ken for an upcoming TV show AND I’ll have even MORE awesome stuff to announce soon. I’m feeling so great, I want to celebrate! Do you know how? By giving away one of my most favorite sex toys EVER!!!
The Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Phoebe vibrator by CalExotics is a clitoral stimulator. It certainly has its benefits and drawbacks. Check out the video below where I discuss them in detail.
I came across this article today from Dan & Jennifer on how to tell if a woman is faking orgasm.
I hit full WTF mode at #6: “Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards”
“This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to ‘test’ her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens.”
If you’ve been on the giving end of a blow job, you’ve likely encountered the dreaded gag reflex. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it.
This month CalExotics sent me the Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit to review. I was so happy when I opened the box! This was a no brainer! I absolutely LOVE this version of rabbit vibrator. Just a few months back I reviewed the Rechargeable Black Label Anniversary Edition Rabbit which has the same features as the triple motor version. The only difference between the two is one is rechargeable and the other takes batteries.
For all of you looking to get some charity work in while you get off please consider shopping with Desire and Pleasure. You can get an additional 15% off in December by using the code BLOG013 during checkout. FPA has worked hard for the last 82 years fighting for the rights of women and advocating for fulfilling sex for all. If you’d like to join the cause while you treat your groin to something special, I highly recommend taking a peek at Desire and Pleasure. It’s the best way to get on the naughty AND nice list this year!
Whenever I hear about someone that is personally conservative or belongs to an orthodox sex negative religion, I want to know if they get freaky behind closed doors.
Do Mormons have sex on their periods? Do they give oral or anal sex? Do they practice BDSM and spank each other when nobody is looking? Do they do it with the lights on while choking their beloved and screwing up against a wall?
Wow, this is a great short film! It also has so many layers. On the surface it’s got a very indie/dark comedy feel. It also brings to light what many people exploring BDSM wrestle with: How to reconcile kink with your feminist beliefs.
It also touches on the importance of safewords and the sometimes murky waters of consent.
I really wanted to love the CalExotics Bunny Dreams Vibrator. I really did. It’s a great concept.
Check this out: you insert the slim 3” shaft into the vagina while the bunny ears wrap around the outside and tickle the clit. The insertable portion has a curve that hits the g-spot. It’s designed to stay in place and deliver hands free orgasms. Bunny Dreams is also so small and compact it can be worn under clothing for a little fun on the go!
What’s better than one holiday contest? TWO holiday contests! You thought my Lovehoney & Sliquid Holiday Giveaway was it? Not a chance— check out what else you can win!
Ken & I will be in Milwaukee on December 1st teaching ZAP! Electric Play – TENS, Wands & More at The Tool Shed. To celebrate, Stockroom.com so graciously gave us TWO Neon Wand + Power Tripper gift packages to giveaway!
I’ve been very busy the last few weeks and one of the things I’ve been working on is a surprise for you! I got together with the wonderful folks at Lovehoney.com and Sliquid to bring you my biggest contest yet— just in time for the holidays!
Wow! I’m honored! I came in #12 on Rori’s Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2012 list! Thanks to all of you who read, comment and share my posts! Also thanks for voting for me. I’m am beside myself with happiness :)
If you’ve watched Barbarella or Sleeper one too many times and have been anxiously awaiting the future of sci-fi sex robots and orgasm machines, your time is now. Today’s most exciting sex toys are using technology to push the boundaries of play, both alone and with a partner.
Inflatable anal toys are one of those mysterious adult products associated with fetishism and considered too “hardcore” for many people. In my experience more people will reach for a large butt plug over and expandable one. Are back-door inflatables really worth the hype or is this a novelty you should leave on the shelf? I personally think they are a wonderful invention worth consideration. This is why:
When I first looked at it I wasn’t expecting much. The shape was strange. The length and bulbous head suggest it’s a g-spot toy, however, I was skeptical because it seemed to lack the firmness needed to effectively stimulate the g-spot. I also automatically question anything that claims “extreme vibration.” I have a clit of steel. I need something just short of a jackhammer to get me off.
That is the worst word I know. It has horrific connotations and nothing can make it right. Ever. I cringed at the thought of using it, but I chose to write the most terrible word I know to make a point. So why, you ask yourself, would you drop the “N bomb” Ken? I used that terrible word to draw attention to how words can anger us. In 1994 there was a trans-man
This is a touchy subject, but I don’t feel like having sex all the time anymore. Surprise! I’m getting older. Soon I will be 44 years of age. I am into alternate sexual practices; I’m in an open relationship, BDSM, and have multiple sexual partners. I should always be in the mood, right? Wrong!