BDSM for Beginners in 5 Simple Steps

How can you be sure you don’t hurt each other or overstep boundaries? What’s the best way bring each other’s fantasies to life? What do you try first? The unknowns can be overwhelming. If you take it step by step, however, you can easily figure out if BDSM is right for you and determine what flavor you prefer.

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SEX with Sunny Megatron TV Show on Showtime!

If you haven’t heard the buzz, my husband, Ken and I have been busy all summer filming a TV show. Yep! I’m going to be on the tee-vee! Ken is the consulting producer and I am the host and co-executive producer of a new show about sex on Showtime called SEX with Sunny Megatron.

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Counterfeit Vibrators: Is your Hitachi Magic Wand Fake?
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One of the most counterfeited toys is the “Cadillac of vibrators” we all know and love, The Original Magic Wand. The Magic Wand has been a staple of the American orgasm diet for 30 years and it remains one of the most popular vibrators. It turns out over 95% of the Magic Wands sold on Amazon and eBay are straight up fakes. Wow! How do you know if yours is fake and how can you find a truly authentic product?

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Sunny & Ken on Sex with Emily Podcast!
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When we were in Los Angeles Ken and I popped in the studio to record a Sex with Emily podcast! We talked about blow job hacks, getting into kink, open relationships, answered listener questions & so much more. I can’t even keep track of all we talked about!

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Sunny & Ken Featured in Jezebel & Crowned “BDSMs Friendliest Couple”
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Jezebel reporter, Mark Shrayber, says we’re “BDSMs Friendliest Couple.” Yes, we may beat the crap out of you but we’ll give you a cupcake afterward ;)

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Booty Call Booty Vibro Kit Review
Anal 101

This is a wonderful, inexpensive, versatile anal kit. It can be used as a vibrating toy, a non-vibrating toy, or an extended wear plug. It’s perfect for either new or experienced butt-players. Better yet, it’s made from non-porous, seamless silicone which is a must, especially for an anal toy.

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Transgender 101: A Starting Point
Aydian Dowling

22% of Americans personally know someone who is transgender and that number is steadily growing. Many of us are confused about what being transgender means. After Jenner made his* announcement, more people are asking, “What does it mean to be transgender?” This transgender 101 will help get you started.

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Power Play Flickering Tongue Review
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It’s easy to hold, small enough to use during partnered sex, and exceptionally inexpensive, averaging around $15 online. Not bad for a powerful, silicone toy! If you like buzzy, “pinpointy” power that won’t break the bank, look into adding the Powerplay Flickering Tongue to your collection.

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Sunny Megatron on Full Disclosure Podcast: The Great Blow Job Debate
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Are blow jobs fun to give or a chore? Eric Barry invited Mary Zee– a lover of fellatio, Michelle Yoder– a disliker of blow jobs and me– a former hater but now enthusiastic member of #TeamBlowJob, to debate it out on the Full Disclosure Podcast.

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4 Must-Haves for Phenomenal First Time Pegging
First time pegging

Is pegging something you’d like to try? You and your partner may find it’s an act that not only brings you closer together but unlocks orgasm potential you never knew possible.

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Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg at Sexual Health Expo in Phoenix
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Great news, Arizona! Ken and I are teaching a 50 Shades of Grey inspired BDSM 101 class at the Sexual Health Expo (a.k.a. SHE) on April 25th, 2015! As a gift to you, my friends get 2-for-1 tickets to SHE. Simply use my Sexual Health Expo coupon code!

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4 Blowjob Tips for Steak & Blowjob Day
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No one really knows the origin of Steak and Blow Job day. According to internet legend, the date of this holiday, March 14th, is a nod to Valentine’s Day which falls exactly one month before.

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An Open Letter to Sex Educators & BDSM Community Re: 50 Shades of Grey
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Love it or hate it, THIS article about rescued marriages is what Fifty Shades of Grey is doing for a lot of people– and that’s a wonderful thing. I get letters from folks all the time about saved marriages and renewed relationships. As educators and BDSM community members, poo-pooing the book (as many in this article quoting 50 sex educators/fetishists on 50 shades do) does nothing but shame people’s very real, valid, life changing experiences. And what we want most is for them to enter the world of BDSM in a safe, sane, and consensual manner (or in a RACK-y way if that’s more their thing ;) ) and learn to differentiate between fantasy inspiration and healthy real-life kink.

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Fifty Shades Valentine’s Day Toy Guide
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It’s no coincidence the Fifty Shades of Grey movie opens Valentine’s day weekend. The movie folks know it’s the perfect sexy date night film. So what happens when the movie is over and you’re inspired to copy a few moves from Christian and Anna’s playbook?

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Where to Find Online Orgy Websites as seen on Sex with Sunny Megatron
Online Orgy

An internet orgy is by invite only. It’s usually set up by social media and the invite list is closely monitored. Usually everybody knows each other. What you’ll need is a good computer, webcasting service, and a high speed internet connection.

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Embrace Body Wand Review
embrace wand review

I am in love with the entire Embrace vibrator line! All soft, silky, premium silicone plus the power and function can’t be beat. The Embrace Body Wand? WIN!

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Disclosing Your Kinks to Your Doctor
Photo credit: Alex Proimoson, flickr

What if there are repercussions as a result of that doctor finding out exactly how you got those bruises all over your ass? What if they judge or shame you? What if their biases affect the quality of care they give you?

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Dollification and Relaxed Clitoral Orgasms
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The first time I had an orgasm being relaxed, calm, and breathing deeply it was an amazing experience. I hadn’t realized before that during all of my previous orgasms my pelvic floor and entire body was clenched, I was white knuckled, grinding my teeth, and holding my breath. All of those things going in in different parts of my body detracted from what my genitals were feeling.

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50 Shades Movie Recommendation: Secretary  
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If you’re a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey but haven’t seen Secretary, SEE SECRETARY! It’s a much more realistic representation of BDSM, it’s suuuuper hot, and the chemistry between the James Spader and Maggie Gyllenaal is amazing!

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Sex with Sunny Megatron #Recharge Discussion Video
6 ways to recharge your sex life

Each week following the airing of a new Sex with Sunny Megatron episode I post follow-up videos on my youtube page. The discussion video for episode 1 is up and embedded below. The theme of episode 1 is #Recharge and in the video I talk a little about the episode and suggest additional ways you can recharge your sex life.

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SEX with Sunny Megatron TV Series Trailer
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I know you’ve all been itching to get a sneak peek of the new show. A trailer is now available right on Showtime’s website and on youtube. It’s also been playing in between shows on Showtime as of late. Here it is!

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Electrify Your Orgasms: TENS Units for Beginners
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Curious about using electricity to get off? Afraid to try because you don’t want to fry your naughty bits? Have no fear! While electrosex devices are sometimes used for BDSM pain play, they can also be an exciting, painless, and surprisingly safe way to bring yourself to mindblowing orgasm.
And no, it won’t hurt. Often portrayed as complicated, tortuous devices, electrosex toys are actually quite simple to operate and offer an infinite palette of sensations. Their adjustability makes them versatile enough to use for pain play or gentle, erotic titillation.

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Four Sexy Taboos to Explore this Halloween
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Sexual taboos are different for everyone. We all have things we absolutely won’t do, however, most of us also have a few naughty, unmentionable, and totally hot taboos that really turn us on. These are the things we’ve been itching to try but because they are a little *ehemm* different, may seem too awkward to bring up to a partner. Halloween can be the perfect time to dive into some of these unchartered waters. Here are 4 sexy taboos that you can explore this October:

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An Intro to Labia Clamps
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If you have ever had your labia massaged or tugged on during foreplay, you may have noticed how good it feels. This is because putting pressure on the labia can stimulate the internal clitoris. That little button above the top of the vaginal opening that most of us know as the clitoris is really just the tip of a much larger iceberg.

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Dear Facebook, #MyNameIs Sunny Megatron
Facebook real name policy

Despite Chris Cox, Facebook’s VP of Product, stating yesterday that everyone has the right to use their “authentic identity” rather than their legal name on Facebook, I woke up this morning locked out of my account. A message popped up stating I had to provide a “government issued ID” to change my name back to the only name I’ve used for many years.

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Shock Your Sex Life: Electrosex for Couples
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Think electric sex play is only for people who enjoy pain? Nothing could be further from the truth. Plenty of folks who consider themselves “vanilla” use electroerotic toys to painlessly titillate their partners or achieve hands-free orgasms. Wanna give it a try? Here’s what you need to know . . .

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Kinkly’s 2014 Sex Superheroes – It’s voting time!
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It’s that time once again! Kinkly is selecting it’s Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014. You can vote for all of your favorite sex bloggers including *cough cough* ME!

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Kinky Korner Web Series
BDSM Web Series

Did you know that as a CalExotics Expert Sexpert I make kinky educational and product videos? My web Series is called Kinky Korner. So far I have nearly 30 videos in this series in which I teach you kink basics and give you a peek at some of my favorite sexytime products.

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Flower Power: Jopen Lust L5 Review
Jopen L5 Review

Let me tell you, this cute little flower unleashes some serious power! <– it also inspires me to rhyme like a pro, ha! Also, in this video I tell you a little bit about my show. Yes, SHOW! Like on TV, this fall!

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Review: The Shibari Wand Helped me Find the Secret to the Universe . . . in my Pants
Review: The Shibari Wand Helped me Find the Secret to the Universe . . . in my Pants

The vibrations of the Rechargeable Shibari Wand really make this sex toy work for me. I’m not sure of the exact specs or the science behind the mechanisms, but the Shibari Wand feels as if it’s vibrating at a different frequency than the Hitachi.

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