Love it or hate it, THIS article about rescued marriages is what Fifty Shades of Grey is doing for a lot of people– and that’s a wonderful thing. I get letters from folks all the time about saved marriages and renewed relationships. As educators and BDSM community members, poo-pooing the book (as many in this article quoting 50 sex educators/fetishists on 50 shades do) does nothing but shame people’s very real, valid, life changing experiences. And what we want most is for them to enter the world of BDSM in a safe, sane, and consensual manner (or in a RACK-y way if that’s more their thing ;) ) and learn to differentiate between fantasy inspiration and healthy real-life kink.
It’s no coincidence the Fifty Shades of Grey movie opens Valentine’s day weekend. The movie folks know it’s the perfect sexy date night film. So what happens when the movie is over and you’re inspired to copy a few moves from Christian and Anna’s playbook?
An internet orgy is by invite only. It’s usually set up by social media and the invite list is closely monitored. Usually everybody knows each other. What you’ll need is a good computer, webcasting service, and a high speed internet connection.
I am in love with the entire Embrace vibrator line! All soft, silky, premium silicone plus the power and function can’t be beat. The Embrace Body Wand? WIN!
What if there are repercussions as a result of that doctor finding out exactly how you got those bruises all over your ass? What if they judge or shame you? What if their biases affect the quality of care they give you?
If you’re a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey but haven’t seen Secretary, SEE SECRETARY! It’s a much more realistic representation of BDSM, it’s suuuuper hot, and the chemistry between the James Spader and Maggie Gyllenaal is amazing!
Each week following the airing of a new Sex with Sunny Megatron episode I post follow-up videos on my youtube page. The discussion video for episode 1 is up and embedded below. The theme of episode 1 is #Recharge and in the video I talk a little about the episode and suggest additional ways you can recharge your sex life.
I know you’ve all been itching to get a sneak peek of the new show. A trailer is now available right on Showtime’s website and on youtube. It’s also been playing in between shows on Showtime as of late. Here it is!
Curious about using electricity to get off? Afraid to try because you don’t want to fry your naughty bits? Have no fear! While electrosex devices are sometimes used for BDSM pain play, they can also be an exciting, painless, and surprisingly safe way to bring yourself to mindblowing orgasm.
And no, it won’t hurt. Often portrayed as complicated, tortuous devices, electrosex toys are actually quite simple to operate and offer an infinite palette of sensations. Their adjustability makes them versatile enough to use for pain play or gentle, erotic titillation.
Sexual taboos are different for everyone. We all have things we absolutely won’t do, however, most of us also have a few naughty, unmentionable, and totally hot taboos that really turn us on. These are the things we’ve been itching to try but because they are a little *ehemm* different, may seem too awkward to bring up to a partner. Halloween can be the perfect time to dive into some of these unchartered waters. Here are 4 sexy taboos that you can explore this October:
If you have ever had your labia massaged or tugged on during foreplay, you may have noticed how good it feels. This is because putting pressure on the labia can stimulate the internal clitoris. That little button above the top of the vaginal opening that most of us know as the clitoris is really just the tip of a much larger iceberg.
Despite Chris Cox, Facebook’s VP of Product, stating yesterday that everyone has the right to use their “authentic identity” rather than their legal name on Facebook, I woke up this morning locked out of my account. A message popped up stating I had to provide a “government issued ID” to change my name back to the only name I’ve used for many years.
Think electric sex play is only for people who enjoy pain? Nothing could be further from the truth. Plenty of folks who consider themselves “vanilla” use electroerotic toys to painlessly titillate their partners or achieve hands-free orgasms. Wanna give it a try? Here’s what you need to know . . .
It’s that time once again! Kinkly is selecting it’s Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014. You can vote for all of your favorite sex bloggers including *cough cough* ME!
Did you know that as a CalExotics Expert Sexpert I make kinky educational and product videos? My web Series is called Kinky Korner. So far I have nearly 30 videos in this series in which I teach you kink basics and give you a peek at some of my favorite sexytime products.
Let me tell you, this cute little flower unleashes some serious power! <– it also inspires me to rhyme like a pro, ha! Also, in this video I tell you a little bit about my show. Yes, SHOW! Like on TV, this fall!
The vibrations of the Rechargeable Shibari Wand really make this sex toy work for me. I’m not sure of the exact specs or the science behind the mechanisms, but the Shibari Wand feels as if it’s vibrating at a different frequency than the Hitachi.
Late last night Ken and I were bombarded with messages and tweets: “You’re on Comedy Central!” “OMG! Your Blow Job Class is on @Midnight with Chris Hardwick!” What?! Yep!
This isn’t just any old vibrator contest, it’s a Triple Sex Toy Giveaway Extravaganza! Win the OhMiBod Lovelife Adventure, Cuddle or Discover!
I really, really, REALLY like the OhMiBod Adventure. Granted, it took a bit for me to get used to but once I did– DAMN! It’s powerful enough for my iron clit of steel, it can be a few toys at once depending on if I insert it, how I insert it, which way I spin it, etc. It also does amazing things to my perineal sponge my other toys only dream of. We have quite the fling going at this point. We simply can’t get enough of each other!
Ken and I have been busy beavers! Here’s the latest on what’s been happening and what’s to come (there’s a dirty joke or two in there somewhere!) . . . Workshops, podcasts, conventions, blog posts, sex toy contests, sexy meal suggestions, and more!
There is no one true way to fulfill a role. Don’t let anyone police what or who you are. Like a $20 dollar bill that is folded in half, then wrinkled up and stuffed in a pocket, you still have the same value as you always did, yet you change shape over time. Even though it’s fun to figure out what you are called or identify with, ditch the labels and the meaning behind them and carve out YOUR way to be a top (or a sub).
Listen in as we talk about dating etiquette, Ken’s rule about first dates, the Chicago kink scene, and a whole mess of interesting things that prompted Eric to call us his “most hardcore people on the show to date.” Eric’s takeaways: “Highlights include old ladies and puppetry of the penis, AVN midget blowbangs, ritual fucking on the altar of a seminary school, shoving balloon animals into buttholes and more.”
Ken Melvoin-Berg and Danny “Delicious” Kelson team up to create a mouth watering (and other parts watering) aphrodisiac meal. Get all the recipes and dinner guest reviews.
Recently I was a guest on the SiriusXM radio show, On Air with Club CalExotics hosted by Sheena Metal. Three words: SO MUCH FUN!
Sheena and I talked about exploring kink and took questions from callers. We finished up the episode with my list of Top 10 Fetish Toys of 2013. These are must-have, classic items everyone should have in their naughty toolbox.
Just like Oprah has a list of her favorite products of the year, I have mine too. Only mine are a lot dirtier. Here are my favorite naughty things of 2013 . . .
I have a new favorite couples toy! Rather, WE have a new favorite couples toy. SQUEE! And go figure, it’s a vibrating cock ring. Not just ANY vibrating cock ring either but we’ll get to that later.
When we were in Vegas covering the AVN Expo, the Outside the Box crew and I took it to the streets. Hilarity ensues when you talk to strangers about their sex lives. We also touched on bestialty (I think? I didn’t imagine that, right!? that *is* what we were talking about??). I’ll let you judge for yourself!