Good news! I’ve teamed up with sex toy retailer Lovehoney to give one Womanizer away to a lucky reader! What’s even more awesome is you can pick the style you receive ;)
The great thing about the Explore More Summit is you can enjoy it all from the privacy of your own home and it’s FREE! Explore More is all about just that– exploring your more: in the bedroom, in your relationships, and in your life.
This is the #1 selling sex toy in Europe for a couple of reasons. One, because it does some REALLY interesting and magical things to clitorses and secondly, that’s where it originated– Germany to be exact.
I’m very excited to announce I’m writing regularly for sexpert.com now! Every two weeks or so expect a new article about kink. This isn’t just any BDSM series either. Each article is designed to build upon the last and will give you a solid BDSM 101 foundation and useable guide.
Ken and I reviewed the Lelo HUGO prostate vibrator. I’m just going to cut to the chase– LOVE! Love, love, love, love, love! HUGO is silicone, has 2 motors, is waterproof, rechargeable, and is remote controlled. The things that really sold us on this prostate vibrator was the power and functioning plus the SenseMotion remote control feature.
It’s only been a couple of years since the medical industry decided participation in fetishism and sadomasochism was no longer considered a mental disorder. It’s no surprise there aren’t many long term and older studies about BDSM. Thankfully, in recent years, researchers have started seriously studying the effects of BDSM and their findings are surprising (well, surprising to the researchers– many BDSM practitioners have always known it was doing something good!)
I’ve been nominated for the 2016 XBIZ Sexpert of the Year award! I’m honored and flattered to be included with so many wonderful educators. Please vote for me and all of your favorite sexperts!
This post will link you to all the Black Friday & Cyber Monday sex toy sales– some have even started already! I’m also expecting a number of flash sales to pop up throughout Cyber Monday so as they get added I’ll add them to the top of the list here so check back daily!
I’m lukewarm about the Je Joue Ooh modular sex toy system. The best piece blew me away but wasn’t meant to stand alone. The worst had me mumbling “WTF?!”
You so graciously included me among this wonderful group of sex superheroes in 2013 and 2014. I’d love to make it a three-peat! Voting is easy. One click is all it takes, no registration or pain-in-the-butt things required.
Clamping doesn’t have to be painful. It’s not uncommon for men to enjoy tugging their scrotum while stroking their penis. Many find this pressure very arousing and that it helps bring on orgasm. Weight added from placing light clamps on the scrotum can give this same effect while leaving both hands free.
I received a question from a reader earlier today. He asked: “Hi Sunny, I was wondering if masturbation is harmful? I do it every single day, sometimes twice. A lot of times I feel tired afterward too, is this bad? Am I masturbating too much? “
I took tour of the amazing Hustler Hollywood flagship store! Perhaps you’ve never been to a sex store at all or maybe just not to one of such epic proportions? This place is as big as a grocery store and even has a coffee shop inside!
Most of us think we know quite a bit about our genitals but do we really? Familiarizing ourselves with the internal structures of what’s in our pants is the first step in learning to give and receive more satisfying pleasure.
The men said the Verspanken Water Wieners resembled everything from Janice from the Muppet’s lips to bumpy pickles and everything in between. But did it get the job done and get it done well?
Motorized devices can turn on unexpectedly and some may be classified as prohibited items by the TSA. Even if your secret items don’t violate any travel rules, luggage still sometimes gets searched. Having phallic shaped objects yanked from your bags for all to see can be downright embarrassing.
This article will give you lots of clever ideas and introduce you to new tools that will take your wand play to the next level. I discuss techniques for direct, indirect, and reverse play including: violet wand rope, Edison adapters, knife play alternatives, conductive metals, and a lot more!
Even though the INA Wave didn’t fit me the way it’s “supposed to,” I find the work-around MUCH more pleasurable. It induces a feeling like no other clit vibe I’ve tried (and that’s a HUGE number) and the orgasms it gives me are very powerful. TOTAL WIN. The INA Wave and I will live happily ever after together afterall!
I like round table style reviews because every body is different. Not everyone experiences things the same or uses toys in the same way. Listen to what the four of us had to say about the Form 2
Back in 2013 I was honored to “pop” Lady Cheeky’s (a.k.a Elle Chase) “glass cherry,” so to speak. We both used Doc Johnson’s Reflections Serenity and Reflections Cool to mixed results.
If you didn’t catch my review of the Motӧrhead Ace of Spades bullet you can read it here. In fact, I dig it so much I asked Lovehoney if I could give one away on their behalf!
It turns out this little Motӧrhead vibrator had a number of features in its basic design my body finds necessary for grade A orgasms. First, the power– that’s a no brainer for me. My clit only likes the strongest vibrators and this little guy surprisingly has it. They call Motӧrhead “the loudest band on earth” could this the “the most powerful bullet on earth?” Maybe.
Is Flibanserin really Viagra for women? That description is misleading. It also has a number of concerning side effects. Find out what it does and doesn’t do and how you can produce its effects on your own without drugs.
Packing is the act of wearing something in the crotch of one’s pants to give the appearance of a penis. Some people pack with socks or other items found around the home while others buy commercially made prosthetic devices commonly known as packers. Some styles of packers can be used for penetrative sex.
One of the most counterfeited toys is the “Cadillac of vibrators” we all know and love, The Original Magic Wand. The Magic Wand has been a staple of the American orgasm diet for 30 years and it remains one of the most popular vibrators. It turns out over 95% of the Magic Wands sold on Amazon and eBay are straight up fakes. Wow! How do you know if yours is fake and how can you find a truly authentic product?
When we were in Los Angeles Ken and I popped in the studio to record a Sex with Emily podcast! We talked about blow job hacks, getting into kink, open relationships, answered listener questions & so much more. I can’t even keep track of all we talked about!
Jezebel reporter, Mark Shrayber, says we’re “BDSMs Friendliest Couple.” Yes, we may beat the crap out of you but we’ll give you a cupcake afterward ;)
This is a wonderful, inexpensive, versatile anal kit. It can be used as a vibrating toy, a non-vibrating toy, or an extended wear plug. It’s perfect for either new or experienced butt-players. Better yet, it’s made from non-porous, seamless silicone which is a must, especially for an anal toy.
22% of Americans personally know someone who is transgender and that number is steadily growing. Many of us are confused about what being transgender means. After Jenner made his* announcement, more people are asking, “What does it mean to be transgender?” This transgender 101 will help get you started.
It’s easy to hold, small enough to use during partnered sex, and exceptionally inexpensive, averaging around $15 online. Not bad for a powerful, silicone toy! If you like buzzy, “pinpointy” power that won’t break the bank, look into adding the Powerplay Flickering Tongue to your collection.
Are blow jobs fun to give or a chore? Eric Barry invited Mary Zee– a lover of fellatio, Michelle Yoder– a disliker of blow jobs and me– a former hater but now enthusiastic member of #TeamBlowJob, to debate it out on the Full Disclosure Podcast.
Is pegging something you’d like to try? You and your partner may find it’s an act that not only brings you closer together but unlocks orgasm potential you never knew possible.
How can you be sure you don’t hurt each other or overstep boundaries? What’s the best way bring each other’s fantasies to life? What do you try first? The unknowns can be overwhelming. If you take it step by step, however, you can easily figure out if BDSM is right for you and determine what flavor you prefer.
Great news, Arizona! Ken and I are teaching a 50 Shades of Grey inspired BDSM 101 class at the Sexual Health Expo (a.k.a. SHE) on April 25th, 2015! As a gift to you, my friends get 2-for-1 tickets to SHE. Simply use my Sexual Health Expo coupon code!
No one really knows the origin of Steak and Blow Job day. According to internet legend, the date of this holiday, March 14th, is a nod to Valentine’s Day which falls exactly one month before.
Love it or hate it, THIS article about rescued marriages is what Fifty Shades of Grey is doing for a lot of people– and that’s a wonderful thing. I get letters from folks all the time about saved marriages and renewed relationships. As educators and BDSM community members, poo-pooing the book (as many in this article quoting 50 sex educators/fetishists on 50 shades do) does nothing but shame people’s very real, valid, life changing experiences. And what we want most is for them to enter the world of BDSM in a safe, sane, and consensual manner (or in a RACK-y way if that’s more their thing ;) ) and learn to differentiate between fantasy inspiration and healthy real-life kink.
It’s no coincidence the Fifty Shades of Grey movie opens Valentine’s day weekend. The movie folks know it’s the perfect sexy date night film. So what happens when the movie is over and you’re inspired to copy a few moves from Christian and Anna’s playbook?
An internet orgy is by invite only. It’s usually set up by social media and the invite list is closely monitored. Usually everybody knows each other. What you’ll need is a good computer, webcasting service, and a high speed internet connection.
I am in love with the entire Embrace vibrator line! All soft, silky, premium silicone plus the power and function can’t be beat. The Embrace Body Wand? WIN!
What if there are repercussions as a result of that doctor finding out exactly how you got those bruises all over your ass? What if they judge or shame you? What if their biases affect the quality of care they give you?
The first time I had an orgasm being relaxed, calm, and breathing deeply it was an amazing experience. I hadn’t realized before that during all of my previous orgasms my pelvic floor and entire body was clenched, I was white knuckled, grinding my teeth, and holding my breath. All of those things going in in different parts of my body detracted from what my genitals were feeling.
If you’re a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey but haven’t seen Secretary, SEE SECRETARY! It’s a much more realistic representation of BDSM, it’s suuuuper hot, and the chemistry between the James Spader and Maggie Gyllenaal is amazing!
Each week following the airing of a new Sex with Sunny Megatron episode I post follow-up videos on my youtube page. The discussion video for episode 1 is up and embedded below. The theme of episode 1 is #Recharge and in the video I talk a little about the episode and suggest additional ways you can recharge your sex life.
I know you’ve all been itching to get a sneak peek of the new show. A trailer is now available right on Showtime’s website and on youtube. It’s also been playing in between shows on Showtime as of late. Here it is!
Curious about using electricity to get off? Afraid to try because you don’t want to fry your naughty bits? Have no fear! While electrosex devices are sometimes used for BDSM pain play, they can also be an exciting, painless, and surprisingly safe way to bring yourself to mindblowing orgasm.
And no, it won’t hurt. Often portrayed as complicated, tortuous devices, electrosex toys are actually quite simple to operate and offer an infinite palette of sensations. Their adjustability makes them versatile enough to use for pain play or gentle, erotic titillation.
Sexual taboos are different for everyone. We all have things we absolutely won’t do, however, most of us also have a few naughty, unmentionable, and totally hot taboos that really turn us on. These are the things we’ve been itching to try but because they are a little *ehemm* different, may seem too awkward to bring up to a partner. Halloween can be the perfect time to dive into some of these unchartered waters. Here are 4 sexy taboos that you can explore this October:
If you have ever had your labia massaged or tugged on during foreplay, you may have noticed how good it feels. This is because putting pressure on the labia can stimulate the internal clitoris. That little button above the top of the vaginal opening that most of us know as the clitoris is really just the tip of a much larger iceberg.
Despite Chris Cox, Facebook’s VP of Product, stating yesterday that everyone has the right to use their “authentic identity” rather than their legal name on Facebook, I woke up this morning locked out of my account. A message popped up stating I had to provide a “government issued ID” to change my name back to the only name I’ve used for many years.
Think electric sex play is only for people who enjoy pain? Nothing could be further from the truth. Plenty of folks who consider themselves “vanilla” use electroerotic toys to painlessly titillate their partners or achieve hands-free orgasms. Wanna give it a try? Here’s what you need to know . . .
It’s that time once again! Kinkly is selecting it’s Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014. You can vote for all of your favorite sex bloggers including *cough cough* ME!
If you haven’t heard the buzz, my husband, Ken and I have been busy all summer filming a TV show. Yep! I’m going to be on the tee-vee! Ken is the consulting producer and I am the host and co-executive producer of a new show about sex on Showtime called SEX with Sunny Megatron.
Did you know that as a CalExotics Expert Sexpert I make kinky educational and product videos? My web Series is called Kinky Korner. So far I have nearly 30 videos in this series in which I teach you kink basics and give you a peek at some of my favorite sexytime products.
Let me tell you, this cute little flower unleashes some serious power! <-- it also inspires me to rhyme like a pro, ha! Also, in this video I tell you a little bit about my show. Yes, SHOW! Like on TV, this fall!
The vibrations of the Rechargeable Shibari Wand really make this sex toy work for me. I’m not sure of the exact specs or the science behind the mechanisms, but the Shibari Wand feels as if it’s vibrating at a different frequency than the Hitachi.
Late last night Ken and I were bombarded with messages and tweets: “You’re on Comedy Central!” “OMG! Your Blow Job Class is on @Midnight with Chris Hardwick!” What?! Yep!
This isn’t just any old vibrator contest, it’s a Triple Sex Toy Giveaway Extravaganza! Win the OhMiBod Lovelife Adventure, Cuddle or Discover!
I really, really, REALLY like the OhMiBod Adventure. Granted, it took a bit for me to get used to but once I did– DAMN! It’s powerful enough for my iron clit of steel, it can be a few toys at once depending on if I insert it, how I insert it, which way I spin it, etc. It also does amazing things to my perineal sponge my other toys only dream of. We have quite the fling going at this point. We simply can’t get enough of each other!
Ken and I have been busy beavers! Here’s the latest on what’s been happening and what’s to come (there’s a dirty joke or two in there somewhere!) . . . Workshops, podcasts, conventions, blog posts, sex toy contests, sexy meal suggestions, and more!
There is no one true way to fulfill a role. Don’t let anyone police what or who you are. Like a $20 dollar bill that is folded in half, then wrinkled up and stuffed in a pocket, you still have the same value as you always did, yet you change shape over time. Even though it’s fun to figure out what you are called or identify with, ditch the labels and the meaning behind them and carve out YOUR way to be a top (or a sub).
Listen in as we talk about dating etiquette, Ken’s rule about first dates, the Chicago kink scene, and a whole mess of interesting things that prompted Eric to call us his “most hardcore people on the show to date.” Eric’s takeaways: “Highlights include old ladies and puppetry of the penis, AVN midget blowbangs, ritual fucking on the altar of a seminary school, shoving balloon animals into buttholes and more.”
Ken Melvoin-Berg and Danny “Delicious” Kelson team up to create a mouth watering (and other parts watering) aphrodisiac meal. Get all the recipes and dinner guest reviews.
Recently I was a guest on the SiriusXM radio show, On Air with Club CalExotics hosted by Sheena Metal. Three words: SO MUCH FUN!
Sheena and I talked about exploring kink and took questions from callers. We finished up the episode with my list of Top 10 Fetish Toys of 2013. These are must-have, classic items everyone should have in their naughty toolbox.
Just like Oprah has a list of her favorite products of the year, I have mine too. Only mine are a lot dirtier. Here are my favorite naughty things of 2013 . . .
I have a new favorite couples toy! Rather, WE have a new favorite couples toy. SQUEE! And go figure, it’s a vibrating cock ring. Not just ANY vibrating cock ring either but we’ll get to that later.
When we were in Vegas covering the AVN Expo, the Outside the Box crew and I took it to the streets. Hilarity ensues when you talk to strangers about their sex lives. We also touched on bestialty (I think? I didn’t imagine that, right!? that *is* what we were talking about??). I’ll let you judge for yourself!
Cal Exotics has really been on a roll lately. I keep getting sent review items I just love! This month I got the Body & Soul 10-Function Transcend. I can’t decide what I like most about it or even how to classify it. It’s a lay-on clit vibe. NO! It’s a bullet! NO! It’s a tickle my clit and have […]
Of all the geeky sex facts I have encountered, this one is by far my favorite: If you haven’t had anal play in a while (a month or longer), you can use the Fibonacci sequence of numbers to approximate the circumference of what can now comfortably fit in your butt.
Self identified sex geek or not, odds are you’ll find something within its pages that resonates with you. You’ll find something liberating, inspiring, and something make makes you think, “Huh, I never thought about it that way.”
Hands down, this compilation contains some of the best writings of sex and sexuality I have ever read.
Dear Basic Silver Bullet,
I met you years ago. How long has it been? Five? Six years? In all that time you’ve never let me down. Your vibrations are intense and when you are pressed up against me, you take to me the edge each and every time.
If there is one wish I had for the world it would be MAKE MORE AUTHENTIC PORN! Okay, maybe that wouldn’t be my first wish. First I’d wish for things like world peace and unlimited wishes.
Well, we weren’t ON Sandra but we were guests on her podcast! This episode was all about clown fetish. Oh, you didn’t know about the clown thing Ken & I have? Here’s a clown sex primer I wrote, Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist. After you’re done reading that, check out the Sex Nerd Sandra […]
When I first saw the Gyration Sensations Gyrating Pleasing Flutter vibrator I didn’t know what to make of it. It kind of looks like a platypus, right? Here’s a quick round-up for those of you doing a drive by. For all the juicy details watch my video review below.
We would probably all differ a little in our answer to the question “What is a relationship for” but one thing we can probably all agree on is the idea that it needs to be fun. Fun is what happens between you and your partner when you put aside the problems in your life, in your world, maybe in your relationship itself, and “throw the old pigskin around” figuratively.
I love reading sex tips. There seems to be a chapter dedicated to great sex in every newsstand woman’s magazine. Sometimes however, I wonder if the authors have tried the suggestions they’ve written as most tend to lack originality and inspiration.
You know, I think I’m becoming cynical. The more sex toys I try, the more it takes to pique my interest. Unless it has a minimum of 8 fully functioning tentacles, makes me coffee or is controlled by mind power—ehhhh it just looks like another vibrator to me. Vibrator, schmibrator. I’m up to my neck in sex toys. My eyebrows don’t easily raise anymore.
Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.
I consume sex ed related material on the web at an alarming rate. I always have my nose in a blog or video. The misconceptions I come across about silicone personal lubricants are plenty.
This interactive porn map by porn MD displays the top 10 pornographic search terms over a 6 month period by country and U.S. state. I’m really happy to see the #1 term both in the U.S. and Illinois is “MILF.” I certainly do live in the right place!
ADONIS CONQUEROR! That sounds like something that would leave a wake of exhausted and happily pleasured genitals in its path. Since it takes a lot to satisfy me and I’m a bit of a size queen, the mental image I had of the Adonis Conqueror resembled a jack hammer in the shape and size of a fist. And, of course, it was made out of sparkling solid gold. RAWR!
I’m super excited! Over the last couple of months I revamped my website (what do you think?), scheduled a ton of awesome great classes, been traveling and filming with Ken for an upcoming TV show AND I’ll have even MORE awesome stuff to announce soon. I’m feeling so great, I want to celebrate! Do you know how? By giving away one of my most favorite sex toys EVER!!!
The Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Phoebe vibrator by CalExotics is a clitoral stimulator. It certainly has its benefits and drawbacks. Check out the video below where I discuss them in detail.
I came across this article today from Dan & Jennifer on how to tell if a woman is faking orgasm.
I hit full WTF mode at #6: “Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards”
“This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to ‘test’ her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens.”
If you’ve been on the giving end of a blow job, you’ve likely encountered the dreaded gag reflex. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it.
This month CalExotics sent me the Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit to review. I was so happy when I opened the box! This was a no brainer! I absolutely LOVE this version of rabbit vibrator. Just a few months back I reviewed the Rechargeable Black Label Anniversary Edition Rabbit which has the same features as the triple motor version. The only difference between the two is one is rechargeable and the other takes batteries.
For all of you looking to get some charity work in while you get off please consider shopping with Desire and Pleasure. You can get an additional 15% off in December by using the code BLOG013 during checkout. FPA has worked hard for the last 82 years fighting for the rights of women and advocating for fulfilling sex for all. If you’d like to join the cause while you treat your groin to something special, I highly recommend taking a peek at Desire and Pleasure. It’s the best way to get on the naughty AND nice list this year!
Whenever I hear about someone that is personally conservative or belongs to an orthodox sex negative religion, I want to know if they get freaky behind closed doors.
Do Mormons have sex on their periods? Do they give oral or anal sex? Do they practice BDSM and spank each other when nobody is looking? Do they do it with the lights on while choking their beloved and screwing up against a wall?
Wow, this is a great short film! It also has so many layers. On the surface it’s got a very indie/dark comedy feel. It also brings to light what many people exploring BDSM wrestle with: How to reconcile kink with your feminist beliefs.
It also touches on the importance of safewords and the sometimes murky waters of consent.
I really wanted to love the CalExotics Bunny Dreams Vibrator. I really did. It’s a great concept.
Check this out: you insert the slim 3” shaft into the vagina while the bunny ears wrap around the outside and tickle the clit. The insertable portion has a curve that hits the g-spot. It’s designed to stay in place and deliver hands free orgasms. Bunny Dreams is also so small and compact it can be worn under clothing for a little fun on the go!
What’s better than one holiday contest? TWO holiday contests! You thought my Lovehoney & Sliquid Holiday Giveaway was it? Not a chance— check out what else you can win!
Ken & I will be in Milwaukee on December 1st teaching ZAP! Electric Play – TENS, Wands & More at The Tool Shed. To celebrate, Stockroom.com so graciously gave us TWO Neon Wand + Power Tripper gift packages to giveaway!
I’ve been very busy the last few weeks and one of the things I’ve been working on is a surprise for you! I got together with the wonderful folks at Lovehoney.com and Sliquid to bring you my biggest contest yet— just in time for the holidays!
Wow! I’m honored! I came in #12 on Rori’s Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2012 list! Thanks to all of you who read, comment and share my posts! Also thanks for voting for me. I’m am beside myself with happiness :)
If you’ve watched Barbarella or Sleeper one too many times and have been anxiously awaiting the future of sci-fi sex robots and orgasm machines, your time is now. Today’s most exciting sex toys are using technology to push the boundaries of play, both alone and with a partner.
Inflatable anal toys are one of those mysterious adult products associated with fetishism and considered too “hardcore” for many people. In my experience more people will reach for a large butt plug over and expandable one. Are back-door inflatables really worth the hype or is this a novelty you should leave on the shelf? I personally think they are a wonderful invention worth consideration. This is why:
When I first looked at it I wasn’t expecting much. The shape was strange. The length and bulbous head suggest it’s a g-spot toy, however, I was skeptical because it seemed to lack the firmness needed to effectively stimulate the g-spot. I also automatically question anything that claims “extreme vibration.” I have a clit of steel. I need something just short of a jackhammer to get me off.
This is a touchy subject, but I don’t feel like having sex all the time anymore. Surprise! I’m getting older. Soon I will be 44 years of age. I am into alternate sexual practices; I’m in an open relationship, BDSM, and have multiple sexual partners. I should always be in the mood, right? Wrong!
I hit the jackpot! I won the orgasm lottery!
I have not been able to stop masturbating since California Exotics sent me the just released 30th Anniversary Black Label Rechargeable Jack Rabbit to review. It’s been about a month. I’m weak. Send food. And more lube!
I love everything about butch women, and I always have. More feminine girls just don’t do anything for me sexually- I can objectively admire their beauty and sexiness, but in the end, it’s when I see a woman who is androgynous, boyish, or plain out manly, my heart starts to pitter-patter. So let me sing an ode to butches here, because …
We need to get our act together and provide realistic, comprehensive sex ed in schools.